She's Dating a Women...?
A lady-friend of mine has recently become involved with someone of the same gender. No big deal you say? Maybe not to you seasoned non-hetro daters. As she has quickly discovered, dating women is not like dating men, on many levels. We got to thinking, what are the questions that any women who's new to non-hetro/queer dating would want answers to. Here's what we came up with. If you have questions you feel like we left out, send them along and feel free to leave a comment.
If I were a women who had just started dating women, I would want to know...
Who calls after the first date?
Who gets to be the one who fears commitment and pulls the "i just got out of a relationship" line?
Who forces who to see "romantic comedy" movies?
How does spooning work?
Who fights to get the other one to meet their family?
Who insists on not being exclusive?
Who feels obligated to pay?
Who wears cologne and who wears perfume? What if you like the same scent?
What happens if you both want to wear the same outfit one day? Does anyone have to open doors or pay?
4 Comments:
ok, here are some of the questions I would have if I were newly dating a women...
"Can you borrow each others clothes without penalty?"
"When dancing, who leads?"
"Who calls first?"
I would be curious if being a women made her answer all the body image questions correctly. Like, How do I look in this?, etc..
If I can not chalk problems up to simply being non-sensical based on her sexes inability to process things - then what would I blame it on?
In non-hetero relationships, doesn't their tend to be a more "girly" or feminine half of the dynamic duo - there must be a balance somewhere, right? Yin and Yang? Maybe she should check out a book on Feng Shui at the public library?
The underlying assumption is that there has to be a heirarchy in the relationship. In reality, no one needs to "wear the pants." Men are taught that they have to open the door and women are taught that they have to walk through it. Break through those damn stereotypes! Queer or not queer, make your relationship based on equality and walk through your own door.
The underlying assumption is that there has to be a heirarchy in the relationship. In reality, no one needs to "wear the pants." Men are taught that they have to open the door and women are taught that they have to walk through it. Break through those damn stereotypes! Queer or not queer, make your relationship based on equality and walk through your own door.
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